If you have ever had thoughts like….
I’m no good.
No one likes me.
I will never measure up.
Everyone will hurt me.
then you probably have developed a stuck point that is affecting your thoughts and behaviors.
In Proverbs 23:7 the Bible says, “For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he.” This verse explains why correct thinking is so important. It states that you become what you think.
Because we all come from a plethora of experiences that are both good and bad, we form thoughts based on the experiences from our past. Often these thoughts are inaccurate and cause us harm.
Some therapies call these faulty thoughts “Cognitive Distortions”; other therapies call them Stuck Points. These “Stuck Points” are things that keep you stuck in patterns that prevent you from living your best life.
On a basic level, you can start the process of change. The Bible says to “capture each thought” (II Cor. 10: 5). In other words, be conscious of each thought you have and how it is affecting you. If it is not helping you, then you know that it needs to be changed.
To change the thought, first identify the unhealthy thought. Next, after identifying the thought and recognizing it as faulty, ask yourself, “How can I change this thought to make it helpful instead of harmful?”
For example, if you are thinking, “No one likes me,” challenge yourself as to whether that is accurate. Is it really true that no one likes you? After challenging the thought, replace it with a healthier thought. For example, a healthier thought might be- “While I might feel that no one likes me, the truth is (insert person) likes me.” or “God loves me so much that he sent his Son for me.”
If you are thinking, “I always mess up.” Challenge that thought. Is it true that you always mess up? Think about a time that you did not mess up- maybe it was getting groceries, or driving your car, or cooking something yummy. Change that thought to a healthier thought like, “I don’t always mess up. In fact, I cook a pretty good chocolate pie.”
This is the very basic of thought changing. Hopefully, later I can give you information about going deeper with changing your thoughts. Until then, practice capturing your negative thoughts, challenging them, and changing them to something positive.
The Bible says in Proverbs that “as a man, so is he.” It is very important that you recognize negative thoughts and replace them with things that will lead you on the path to your abundant life.
Hope this helps someone!
Have a great day!
Any thought that is not helpful to you, is very possibly harming you and keeping you from your best life; it is important to recognize the thought as faulty and then change it. Unfortunately, sometimes these thoughts are stuck in our subconscious, and we are not aware of them, or we have a really hard time changing them. Working with a therapist might be necessary to help get the really stuck points, unstuck. If you are having any thoughts of self-harm, get help today!
Robin is a Licensed Clinical Mental Health Counselor. She works from a Cognitive Behavioral orientation and is certified in Cognitive Processing Therapy, Neurolinguistic Programming, CBT- Insomnia, Anger Management, and as a Life Coach. She is also trained in EMDR and EFT and TFT tapping and holds a master’s degree in Counseling and a Doctorate Degree in Biblical Studies. She is the founder of Atonement Centered Connectivity Therapy. Follow her on Facebook at Living Imperfectly Perfect or on Instagram at living.imperfectly.perfect. Subscribe to her channel on Youtube at Living Imperfectly Perfect.
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